How long does this quiz take?

It takes about 1–2 minutes to complete.

Are my responses private?

Yes, we don't store any identifying data when you take this quiz.

Can I take this test more than once?

Yes, you can retake the test any time to see how your results may have changed.

Are these actually red flags or just relationship patterns?

These are patterns that can become challenging rather than toxic red flags. Everyone has tendencies that can create friction in relationships. The goal is awareness and growth, not judgment or labeling yourself as problematic.

Can understanding my relationship red flag help me improve my connections?

Yes. Recognizing your patterns helps you become more intentional about how you show up, communicate your needs more clearly, and notice when old habits might be creating problems in new relationships. Self-awareness is the foundation of meaningful change.

Everyone has blind spots in how they connect — understanding yours is the first step to healthier relationships.

Relationship Red Flag Test

Find out which pattern might be holding you back from deeper connection.

By Mark Travers, Ph.D. | Last Updated: February 10, 2026

We all have patterns that can create challenges in our relationships, and recognizing yours is the first step toward growth. This relationship red flag test identifies your style based on three key dimensions: whether you show affection and make big gestures early, whether you find it hard to admit when you're wrong during arguments, and whether you need frequent reassurance about where you stand with your partner. Your results will reveal your dominant profile, from the Future-Rusher who moves quickly and craves certainty, to the Guarded One who approaches connection with restraint and self-sufficiency.

Keep in mind that these results reflect your typical patterns, not red flags in the traditional toxic sense. Understanding your default archetype can help you recognize your growth edges, communicate more effectively with partners, and build self-awareness around the ways you might unintentionally create distance or tension. After completing this test, you may also enjoy the Anxious Attachment Scale or the Avoidant Attachment Scale to explore your attachment patterns in greater depth.

Frequently Asked Questions

How long does this quiz take?: It takes about 1–2 minutes to complete.
Are my responses private?: Yes, we don't store any identifying data when you take this quiz.
Can I take this test more than once?: Yes, you can retake the test any time to see how your Relationship Red Flag Test results may have changed.
Are these actually red flags or just relationship patterns?: These are patterns that can become challenging rather than toxic red flags. Everyone has tendencies that can create friction in relationships. The goal is awareness and growth, not judgment or labeling yourself as problematic.
Can understanding my relationship red flag help me improve my connections?: Yes. Recognizing your patterns helps you become more intentional about how you show up, communicate your needs more clearly, and notice when old habits might be creating problems in new relationships. Self-awareness is the foundation of meaningful change.

Relationship Red Flag Test: Take The Quiz

Step 1: Rate Yourself On The Following Items.

For each statement, indicate how much you agree on a scale of 1 (Strongly Disagree) to 5 (Strongly Agree). For best results, answer honestly and trust your first instinct. Think about your typical behavior in relationships, not occasional exceptions.

1. I tend to show a lot of affection and make big gestures early in a relationship.

2. During arguments, I sometimes struggle to acknowledge when I might be wrong.

3. I need frequent reassurance about where I stand with my partner.

4. I often plan surprises or thoughtful gestures to make people in my life feel special.

5. When I disagree with someone close to me, I tend to focus on explaining my perspective rather than finding middle ground.

6. I check my phone frequently when waiting to hear back from someone I care about.

7. I prefer having clear plans and commitments rather than keeping things casual or undefined.

8. I can usually tell when something is off with someone before they say anything.

Step 2: Submit Your Relationship Red Flag Test Answers

After completing all questions, click below to get your results.

Disclaimer

This scale is designed for entertainment purposes and is not a substitute for professional diagnosis or treatment.