Conflict Avoidance Test: How Much Do You Dodge Difficult Conversations?

Avoiding conflict might feel like keeping the peace — but research suggests it often just delays it.

By Mark Travers, Ph.D. | Last Updated: March 15, 2026

Conflict avoidance is one of the most common interpersonal patterns studied in relationship psychology. While occasional avoidance is healthy, chronic avoidance is associated with suppressed resentment, reduced relationship satisfaction, and a gradual erosion of authentic self-expression. This 10-question assessment measures where you fall on the conflict avoidance spectrum and compares your score to a global sample. If you're interested in related patterns, you might also explore the Micro-Resentments Test or the Passive Aggression Scale.

Conflict Avoidance Test: Take The Assessment

Step 1: Rate yourself on the following items. For best results, answer honestly and trust your first instinct.

1. I find it easier to stay quiet than to start a conversation that might cause tension.

2. When someone upsets me, I tend to withdraw rather than address it directly.

3. I often agree with people outwardly even when I privately disagree.

4. I feel physically uncomfortable — tense, anxious, or nauseous — when conflict is brewing.

5. I rehearse difficult conversations in my head but rarely end up having them.

6. I would rather absorb the frustration than risk damaging a relationship by speaking up.

7. I downplay my own needs to avoid being seen as demanding or difficult.

8. I find it hard to set firm limits with people I care about.

9. After an argument, I feel intense regret even when I was the one who had been wronged.

10. I find it hard to maintain my position when someone pushes back on me.

Now, enter your demographics to see how you stack up against others.

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Frequently Asked Questions

How long does this test take?
This test takes about 2-3 minutes to complete.

Are my responses kept private?
Yes, we do not store any personally identifying data when you take this test. Your demographic information is anonymized and used only to calculate group averages.

Can this test diagnose problems?
This assessment is educational and designed to increase self-awareness. It is not a diagnostic tool and cannot replace professional counseling.

Disclaimer

This scale is designed for entertainment purposes and is not a substitute for professional diagnosis or treatment.

Conflict Avoidance Test: How Much Do You Dodge Difficult Conversations?

Conflict Avoidance Test: Take The Assessment

Now, enter your demographics to see how you stack up against others.

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