4 Ways For Women To Up Their Attractiveness, According To A Mental Health Expert

Unlocking the full force of your allure often takes less of an overhaul than you think.

By Jourdan Travers, LCSW | June 2, 2023

In a world where first impressions matter greatly, it's no surprise that we often get caught up trying to figure out how to maximize our God-given beauty. After all, who doesn't want to make heads turn and hearts flutter?

Fortunately, science has you covered. Here are four research-backed techniques to own your image and leave a lasting impression on everyone you meet.

#1. Go pro with a "no makeup, makeup" look

Contrary to some women's beliefs, research suggests that wearing too much makeup can lead to a miscalibration in judgements of attractiveness. According to research published in the Quarterly Journal of Experimental Psychology, women may mistakenly believe that they need to apply more makeup than necessary to meet the perceived social standards of attractiveness.

The authors state, "The findings suggest that attractiveness perceptions with cosmetics are a form of pluralistic ignorance, whereby women tailor their cosmetics use to an inaccurate perception of others' preferences."

Along similar lines, a study published in PLOS ONE suggests that while moderate makeup use can positively influence judgments of attractiveness, competence, likability, and trustworthiness, wearing too much makeup can lead to perceptions of artificiality.

Therefore, the best approach may be to opt for a "no makeup, makeup" look that enhances your natural features subtly and effortlessly. Test out this look by using a light foundation, neutral eyeshadows, and enhancing eyelashes and brows.

#2. Don't play too hard to get

Psychological research urges us to question the conventional wisdom that playing hard to get is a good way to enhance one's perceived appeal. For instance, one study published in the Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences found that when people can easily understand another person's emotions, they tend to feel more attracted to them. Alternatively, when we are less confident in our understanding of someone's emotional state, or in our ability to decode their motives, we tend to become suspicious or even fearful of that person.

Being overly elusive or distant can inadvertently send mixed signals, leading to confusion and potential disinterest from others. Genuine and honest communication is key in building meaningful connections.

#3. Keep the flirtations casual and direct

Piggybacking on the last point, a research study published in Personality and Individual Differences compared which of the following types of female pickup lines were most attractive and interest-provoking to men:

Direct pick-up lines: "Want to have a drink together?" You have really nice eyes." "Can I have your number?" "You're cute."
Flippant pick-up lines: "Shall we talk, or continue flirting from a distance?" "I always see you here, you must be the bar's best customer!" "Since you're alone and I'm alone, why don't we sit together?" "I'm easy, are you?"
Innocuous pick-up lines: "Can you recommend a good drink?" "I've seen you before, do you work here?" "Where did you get that tattoo? Did it hurt?" and "Hi."

Not surprisingly, men rated all forms of pick-up lines coming from attractive females as effective. However, they were most impressed by directness.

"Our findings suggest that direct lines are preferred over flippant and innocuous lines, with the innocuous lines being the least preferred," state the researchers.

#4. Flash your smile

A genuine smile can work wonders when it comes to attractiveness. A smile has a powerful effect on how attractive and likable we appear to others – and past research shows that attractive people are seen as more successful, intelligent, and friendly. One study suggests that our teeth alone can influence how attractive we are perceived and how others view our personality.

Displaying a heartfelt smile has ripple effects – not only do you appear more attractive but you are also perceived to be more welcoming and trustworthy by others. When you share your radiant smile with the world, it signals openness, friendliness, and a genuine interest in engaging with others.

Conclusion

Attraction is, by definition, a subjective thing. But there's also a science to it. By using makeup to slightly enhance (not cover up) your features, keeping communication and flirtation friendly and direct, and exuding your inner happiness, you'll find the pull of your magnetic radiance to be a bit stronger than before.