How long does this quiz take?

It takes about 2 minutes to complete this 10-question assessment.

Are my responses private?

Yes, we don't store any identifying data when you take this quiz. Your responses are completely anonymous and used only to generate your results.

Can my results help improve my relationships?

Absolutely. Understanding your boundary-setting patterns can help you make more intentional choices about what you'll accept in relationships and where you might need to strengthen your standards or increase flexibility.

Discover how firm your romantic boundaries really are and how your non-negotiables compare to others in relationships.

Relationship Red Lines Test

How strong are your standards?

By Mark Travers, Ph.D. | Last Updated: February 13, 2026

Your relationship red lines—the boundaries you maintain in romantic partnerships—reflect your attachment patterns, past experiences, and evolving understanding of what you need from love. This test measures where you fall on the spectrum from highly accommodating to uncompromising. It's important to realize that there's no single “right” approach. Rather, the key is in selecting an approach that aligns with your core values. After completing this assessment, explore our Relationship Satisfaction Scale to see how your boundaries impact your current partnership, or take our Sense of Relational Entitlement Scale to understand your expectations in intimate connections.

Frequently Asked Questions

How long does this quiz take?: It takes about 2 minutes to complete this 10-question assessment.
Are my responses private?: Yes, we don't store any identifying data when you take this quiz. Your responses are completely anonymous and used only to generate your results.
Can my results help improve my relationships?: Absolutely. Understanding your boundary-setting patterns can help you make more intentional choices about what you'll accept in relationships and where you might need to strengthen your standards or increase flexibility.

Relationship Red Lines Test: Take The Quiz

Step 1: Rate Your Relationship Standards

For each statement, indicate how much you agree on a scale of 1 (Strongly Disagree) to 5 (Strongly Agree). For best results, answer honestly and trust your first instinct.

1. I would end a relationship if my partner repeatedly violated my clearly expressed boundaries.

2. I maintain my core relationship standards, even when I feel intense attraction.

3. I have clear dealbreakers that I do not compromise on, even when I strongly like someone.

4. I leave relationships that consistently fail to meet my core needs, even if there is strong potential.

5. If a partner seriously violated my trust, rebuilding the relationship would require significant change—not just apologies.

6. I acknowledge and confront concerning behavior in my partner rather than minimizing it to protect the relationship.

7. I would rather be single than settle for someone who doesn't meet my core relationship standards.

8. I communicate my standards early in dating rather than assuming they are understood.

9. I have ended relationships others saw as “fine” because they violated my personal standards.

10. I take early red flags seriously, even when I hope the relationship will succeed.

Step 2: Enter Your Demographics

Provide your demographics to see how you stack up against others.

What is your first name?

What is your age?

What is your gender?

What region of the world do you live in?

Disclaimer

This scale is designed for entertainment purposes and is not a substitute for professional diagnosis or treatment.