How long does this quiz take?

It takes about five minutes to complete.

Are my responses private?

Yes, all answers are anonymized and confidential.

Can I take this test more than once?

Yes, you can retake the test any time to see how your results may have changed.

Will this quiz tell me how my partner should express their love for me?

Yes, the quiz results will highlight your primary and secondary affection preferences, which you can then share with your partner to guide their expressions of love and ensure your emotional needs are met. You should also encourage your partner to take the test too, and compare your results with each other.

Can my results help improve a long-term relationship?

Understanding your and your partner's expression styles is crucial for long-term relationship health. The results provide a framework for more effective communication and can help reduce recurring misunderstandings in your relationship.

Understand how you prefer to give and receive affection with this scientifically-informed relationship quiz.

Relationship Needs Profile

Discover your unique way of communicating love with this short test.

By Mark Travers, Ph.D. | Last Updated: December 4, 2025

Reviewed by Jourdan Travers, LCSW

The Relationship Needs Profile is a tool designed to help you uncover the ways you prefer to express and receive affection in your closest relationships. Drawing from popular relational models, most notably Gary Chapman's "Love Language" research, the underlying principle is that we all have unique relationship needs, encompassing five core areas: Encouraging Words, Practical Support, Shared Moments, Affectionate Contact, and Thoughtful Gestures. Understanding these differing styles is the first step toward building a more harmonious and emotionally satisfying partnership.

When partners have different expression styles, it's easy for loving gestures to go unnoticed or for one partner's attempts at communication to feel misdirected or insufficient to the other. This quiz provides you with a clear roadmap to understanding your intrinsic needs, allowing you to articulate them to your partner and, conversely, recognize and validate your partner’s expressions of love, even if they differ from your own.

This assessment is a short, research-informed starting point for deepening your self-awareness and enhancing relational communication. If you're interested in exploring other relationship dynamics, you may also want to take our Relationship Satisfaction Scale or Authenticity in Relationships Scale.

Frequently Asked Questions

How long does this quiz take?: It takes about five minutes to complete.
Are my responses private?: Yes, all Relationship Needs Profile answers are anonymized and confidential.
Can I take this test more than once?: Yes, you can retake the test any time to see how your Relationship Needs Profile results may have changed.
Will this quiz tell me how my partner should express their love for me?: Yes, the quiz results will highlight your primary and secondary affection preferences, which you can then share with your partner to guide their expressions of love and ensure your emotional needs are met. You should also encourage your partner to take the test too, and compare your results with each other.
Can my results help improve a long-term relationship?: Understanding your and your partner's expression styles is crucial for long-term relationship health. The results provide a framework for more effective communication and can help reduce recurring misunderstandings in your relationship.

Relationship Needs Profile: Take the test

Step 1: Rate Your Affection Preferences

For each statement, indicate how much you agree on a scale of 1 (Strongly Disagree) to 5 (Strongly Agree).

My partner helping me run an errand is a significant gesture of love.

A gentle touch or embrace from my partner immediately makes me feel loved.

Verbal compliments and encouraging words from my partner uplift me the most.

I deeply value when my partner listens intently to what I have to say.

I feel cherished when I receive gifts on special occasions.

I appreciate it when my partner takes action to lighten my daily workload.

Physical expressions of affection, like holding hands or cuddling, make me feel secure.

It means a lot when my partner tells me they are proud of me.

Spending leisurely, quality time with my partner is vital for our relationship health.

Receiving a small, meaningful gift from my partner is very important to me.

Doing a favor for me without being asked is a powerful way my partner can show love.

Physical expressions of affection, like holding hands or cuddling, make me feel secure.

I feel most appreciated when my partner acknowledges my accomplishments with praise.

I deeply value when my partner listens intently to what I have to say.

I feel loved when my partner surprises me with a thoughtful token of affection.

I appreciate it when my partner takes action to lighten my daily workload.

I feel most connected to my partner through non-sexual physical contact.

I value my partner's positive affirmations about my character.

Seeing my partner dedicate their free time entirely to me is a great feeling.

I believe that thoughtful, tangible gifts are important symbols of affection.

I feel genuinely valued when my partner remembers small details I share and brings them up later.

When my partner initiates affection, like resting a hand on my shoulder or cuddling close, it strengthens our bond.

I feel cared for when my partner helps plan and organize something I’ve been overwhelmed by.

Receiving something my partner picked out specifically because it reminded them of me makes me feel deeply appreciated.

Sharing unrushed time together without distractions—phones, TV, or multitasking—makes me feel most connected.

Step 2: Enter Your Demographics

Provide your age, gender, region, and first name for a detailed report comparing your results to others.

What is your age?

What is your gender?

What region of the world do you live in?

What is your first name?

Step 3: Submit Your Relationship Needs Profile Answers

After completing all questions, click below to send your responses to Mark Travers, Ph.D. All answers are anonymized and confidential.

References

Egbert, N. & Polk, D. (2006). Speaking the language of relational maintenance: A validity test of Chapman’s (1992) five love languages. Communication Research Reports, 23(1). 19-26.

Disclaimer

This scale is designed for educational purposes and is not a substitute for professional diagnosis or treatment.