Relationship Control And Jealousy Test: Assess Your Behavior With This Free Quiz

Do you often find yourself acting overly protective or monitoring your partner?

By Mark Travers, Ph.D. | Last Updated: March 19, 2026

Welcome to the Behavioral Jealousy Test, a tool designed to help you reflect on your actions within an intimate partnership. This quiz is inspired by research on the behavioral jealousy dimension of the comprehensive Multidimensional Jealousy Scale, which focuses on the observable, sometimes maladaptive, behaviors people display when they feel their relationship is threatened.

Behavioral control, often rooted in underlying fear and insecurity, can manifest as excessive monitoring, possessiveness, or attempts to limit a partner's autonomy. While some level of protective instinct is normal, when these actions become pervasive and controlling, they can severely erode trust and increase conflict. Recognizing and addressing these patterns is vital for maintaining a healthy and equitable relationship dynamic.

By honestly responding to the following statements, you can gain insight into your own tendencies toward relationship control. To explore related topics, you might also find our Relationship Sabotage Scale and the Propensity Towards Infidelity Scale helpful.

Take The Behavioral Jealousy Scale

For each statement, indicate how much you agree. For best results, answer honestly and trust your first instinct.

1. I repeatedly question my partner about where they have been.

2. I intentionally interrupt or join conversations when my partner is talking to someone else.

3. I show up unexpectedly at my partner's location to see who they are with.

4. I check my partner's personal belongings, like their bag or pockets.

5. I contact my partner without warning just to verify their location or presence.

6. I interrogate my partner about their current or past romantic connections.

7. I speak negatively about a person if my partner seems interested in them.

8. I demand details from my partner regarding their recent phone conversations.

9. I monitor my partner’s online activity (such as social media or messaging status) to see who they might be interacting with.

Now, enter your demographics to see how you stack up against others.

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References

Inspired by work by Pfeiffer, S. M. & Wong, P. T. P. (1989). Multidimensional jealousy. Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, 6(2). 181-196. doi:10.1177/026540758900600203

Frequently Asked Questions

How long does this scale take?
It takes a few minutes to complete.

Are my responses private?
Yes, all responses are anonymized and confidential.

Can I take this test more than once?
Yes, you can retake the test any time to see how your results may have changed.

Disclaimer

This scale is designed for entertainment purposes and is not a substitute for professional diagnosis or treatment.

Relationship Control And Jealousy Test: Assess Your Behavior With This Free Quiz

Take The Behavioral Jealousy Scale

Now, enter your demographics to see how you stack up against others.

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