How long does this quiz take?

It takes about three minutes to complete.

Are my responses private?

Yes, all answers are anonymized and confidential.

Can I take this test more than once?

Yes, you can retake the test any time to see how your results may have changed.

How is this test different from other tests of jealousy?

This quiz is a brief, educational tool created for public self-reflection and is only informed by the behavioral dimension of jealousy, which can be different from one's emotional experience of jealousy.

Can the results of this test help me improve my relationship?

Yes, understanding your tendency toward controlling behaviors is the first step toward fostering healthier communication and building a more trusting, stable relationship.

Discover if your actions cross the line from affection to controlling behavior with this jealousy test.

Behavioral Jealousy Scale

Do you often find yourself acting overly protective or monitoring your partner?

By Mark Travers, Ph.D. | Last Updated: December 15, 2025

Reviewed by Jourdan Travers, LCSW

Welcome to the Behavioral Jealousy Test, a tool designed to help you reflect on your actions within an intimate partnership. This quiz is inspired by research on the behavioral jealousy dimension of the comprehensive Multidimensional Jealousy Scale, which focuses on the observable, sometimes maladaptive, behaviors people display when they feel their relationship is threatened.

Behavioral control, often rooted in underlying fear and insecurity, can manifest as excessive monitoring, possessiveness, or attempts to limit a partner's autonomy. While some level of protective instinct is normal, when these actions become pervasive and controlling, they can severely erode trust and increase conflict. Recognizing and addressing these patterns is vital for maintaining a healthy and equitable relationship dynamic.

By honestly responding to the following statements, you can gain insight into your own tendencies toward relationship control. To explore related topics, you might also find our Relationship Sabotage Scale and the Propensity Towards Infidelity Scale helpful.

Frequently Asked Questions

How long does this quiz take?: It takes about three minutes to complete.
Are my responses private?: Yes, all Behavioral Jealousy Scale answers are anonymized and confidential.
Can I take this test more than once?: Yes, you can retake the test any time to see how your Behavioral Jealousy Scale results may have changed.
How is this test different from other tests of jealousy?: This quiz is a brief, educational tool created for public self-reflection and is only informed by the behavioral dimension of jealousy, which can be different from one's emotional experience of jealousy.
Can the results of this test help me improve my relationship?: Yes, understanding your tendency toward controlling behaviors is the first step toward fostering healthier communication and building a more trusting, stable relationship.

Behavioral Jealousy Scale: Take The Test

Step 1: Rate Your Jealous Behaviors

For each statement, indicate how often you engage in the behavior on a scale of 1 (Never) to 5 (All The Time). For best results, answer honestly and trust your first instinct.

1. I repeatedly question my partner about where they have been.

2. I intentionally interrupt or join conversations when my partner is talking to someone else.

3. I show up unexpectedly at my partner's location to see who they are with.

4. I check my partner's personal belongings, like their bag or pockets.

5. I contact my partner without warning just to verify their location or presence.

6. I interrogate my partner about their current or past romantic connections.

7. I speak negatively about a person if my partner seems interested in them.

8. I demand details from my partner regarding their recent phone conversations.

9. I monitor my partner’s online activity (such as social media or messaging status) to see who they might be interacting with.

Step 2: Enter Your Demographics

Provide your age, gender, region, and first name for a detailed report comparing your results to others.

What is your age?

What is your gender?

What region of the world do you live in?

What is your first name?

Step 3: Submit Your Behavioral Jealousy Scale Answers

After completing all questions, click below to send your responses to Mark Travers, Ph.D. All answers are anonymized and confidential.

References

Pfeiffer, S. M. & Wong, P. T. P. (1989). Multidimensional jealousy. Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, 6(2). 181-196. doi:10.1177/026540758900600203

Disclaimer

This scale is designed for educational purposes and is not a substitute for professional diagnosis or treatment.