Relationship Control Test: Assess Your Influence In Your Partnership With This Free Quiz

How balanced is your influence in your partnership? Take this scientifically-informed test to find out.

By Mark Travers, Ph.D. | Last Updated: March 19, 2026

Every relationship has moments where one partner feels more in control than the other. The Relationship Control Test helps you understand your perception of influence in your partnership.

This test can shed light on whether external circumstances or unpredictable partner behaviors are affecting your connection. By identifying these patterns, you can improve communication and manage conflicts more effectively.

For a broader view of relationship and personal dynamics, you might also explore our Relationship Satisfaction Scale and the Passive Aggression Scale.

Take The Relationship Control Scale

For each statement, indicate how much you agree. For best results, answer honestly and trust your first instinct.

1. I often don’t know what to do in arguments with my partner.

2. My partner’s behavior can be unpredictable.

3. External situations often shape the smoothness of our relationship.

4. Small disagreements with my partner often seem random.

5. I notice that day-to-day events strongly affect how we get along.

6. Sometimes disagreements feel impossible to resolve.

7. It often depends on my partner to end conflicts calmly.

8. I struggle to understand what triggers my partner’s moods.

9. I feel unsure about how much influence I have over the outcome of conflicts with my partner.

Now, enter your demographics to see how you stack up against others.

First Name

Age

Gender

Region

References

Inspired by work by Miller, P. C., Lefcourt, H. M., & Ware, W. E. (1983). The construction and development of the Miller Marital Locus of Control scale. Canadian Journal of Behavioral Science, 15, 266–279.

Frequently Asked Questions

How long does this scale take?
It takes a few minutes to complete.

Are my responses private?
Yes, all responses are anonymized and confidential.

Can I take this test more than once?
Yes, you can retake the test any time to see how your results may have changed.

Disclaimer

This scale is designed for entertainment purposes and is not a substitute for professional diagnosis or treatment.

Relationship Control Test: Assess Your Influence In Your Partnership With This Free Quiz

Take The Relationship Control Scale

Now, enter your demographics to see how you stack up against others.

References

Frequently Asked Questions

Disclaimer

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