How long does this quiz take?

It takes about two minutes to complete.

Are my responses private?

Yes, all answers are anonymized and confidential.

Can I take this test more than once?

Yes, you can retake the test any time to see how your results may have changed.

Will this quiz tell me if I am too much of a people-pleaser?

This quiz will help you understand the extent to which you prioritize others' feelings over expressing your authentic thoughts and needs in a relationship.

Can my results help me improve my communication?

Yes, your results will highlight areas where you may be suppressing your voice or struggling to find a healthy balance, which can guide improvements in your communication style.

This relationship quiz explores how freely you express your true thoughts and feelings while balancing honesty and emotional consideration.

Authenticity In Relationships Test

How real are you in your closest connections?

By Mark Travers, Ph.D. | Last Updated: December 14, 2025

Reviewed by Jourdan Travers, LCSW

Being authentic in relationships doesn’t mean saying everything that comes to mind. It means expressing your real thoughts, needs, and emotions in a way that supports connection rather than fear or self-silencing. Many people struggle to find this balance, especially when they worry about conflict, rejection, or hurting others.

The Authenticity in Relationships Test explores common patterns around self-expression, people-pleasing, emotional honesty, and compromise. By reflecting on how you typically communicate in close relationships, this scale helps highlight whether you tend to suppress your needs, over-accommodate others, or struggle to assert yourself clearly.

Your results can offer valuable insight into your relational habits and emotional boundaries. If authenticity feels challenging, you may also find it helpful to explore related traits using the Passive Aggression Scale or the Relationship Satisfaction Scale.

Frequently Asked Questions

How long does this quiz take?: It takes about two minutes to complete.
Are my responses private?: Yes, all Authenticity In Relationships Test answers are anonymized and confidential.
Can I take this test more than once?: Yes, you can retake the test any time to see how your Authenticity In Relationships Test results may have changed.
Will this quiz tell me if I am too much of a people-pleaser?: This quiz will help you understand the extent to which you prioritize others' feelings over expressing your authentic thoughts and needs in a relationship.
Can my results help me improve my communication?: Yes, your results will highlight areas where you may be suppressing your voice or struggling to find a healthy balance, which can guide improvements in your communication style.

Authenticity In Relationships Test: Take The Test

Step 1: Rate Your Relationship Authenticity

For each statement, indicate how much you agree on a scale of 1 (Strongly Disagree) to 5 (Strongly Agree). For best results, answer honestly and trust your first instinct.

1. I often keep my true opinions to myself because I worry about how others will react.

2. I tend to prioritize other people’s preferences over my own.

3. I avoid being fully honest if I think it might upset someone.

4. I struggle to know when to stand my ground versus when to compromise.

5. I find it difficult to balance my needs with the needs of others.

6. I filter what I say based on how I think others will judge me.

7. I usually consider others’ feelings before expressing my own perspective.

8. I believe being direct often risks offending people.

9. My default is to try and satisfy the needs of others.

Step 2: Enter Your Demographics

Provide your age, gender, region, and first name for a detailed report comparing your results to others.

What is your age?

What is your gender?

What region of the world do you live in?

What is your first name?

Step 3: Submit Your Authenticity In Relationships Test Answers

After completing all questions, click below to send your responses to Mark Travers, Ph.D. All answers are anonymized and confidential.

References

Wang, Y. N. (2016). Balanced authenticity predicts optimal well-being: Theoretical conceptualization and empirical development of the authenticity in relationships scale. Individual and Personality Differences, 94, 316–323.

Disclaimer

This scale is designed for educational purposes and is not a substitute for professional diagnosis or treatment.