Relationship Flourishing Scale

Is your relationship just happy, or is it genuinely thriving? Take this test to find out.

By Mark Travers, Ph.D. | November 12, 2024

Relationship flourishing refers to a state in which a relationship contributes to the growth, well-being and deeper connection of both partners. Unlike relationships that simply meet basic needs or provide satisfaction, a flourishing relationship promotes personal development, meaningful connection, shared purpose and mutual support.

The Relationship Flourishing Scale (RFS) is a tool designed to measure the quality and depth of a relationship beyond simple satisfaction. Unlike many relationship assessments that focus only on happiness or harmony, this scale evaluates the eudaimonic aspects of relationships—the qualities that contribute to long-term fulfillment, personal growth and a sense of purpose within the partnership. It measures four core dimensions: personal growth, mutual support, shared goals and meaningful connection.

You'll gain a clearer understanding of how well your relationship supports your personal growth and shared goals. This test highlights your connection's strengths and reveals areas for improvement—offering insights into the depth, purpose and supportiveness of your partnership.

You can take this test here. Please follow all of the steps to receive your results.

Step 1: Rate the following statements based on how much you agree with them on a scale of strongly disagree to strongly agree.

1. I have more success in my important goals because of my partner's help.

2. We look for activities that help us to grow as a couple.

3. My partner has helped me to grow in ways that I could not have done on my own.

4. It is worth it to share my most personal thoughts with my partner.

5. When making important decisions, I think about whether it will be good for our relationship.

6. It is natural and easy for me to do things that keep our relationship strong.

7. Talking with my partner helps me to see things in new ways.

8. I make it a point to celebrate my partner's successes.

9. I really work to improve our relationship.

10. My partner shows interest in things that are important to me.

11. We do things that are deeply meaningful to us as a couple.

12. I make time when my partner needs to talk.

Step 2: Enter your age, gender, region, and first name so we can provide you with a detailed report that compares your test scores to people similar to you.

What is your age?

What is your gender?

What region of the world do you live in?

What is your first name?

Step 3: Check to make sure you've provided answers to all of the statements/questions above. Once you've done that, click the button below to send your responses to Awake Therapy's Lead Psychologist, Mark Travers, Ph.D. He will provide you with an overview of how you scored relative to others (all answers are anonymized and confidential to protect users' privacy). He can also answer any follow-up questions you may have.

References: Fowers, B. J., Laurenceau, J. P., Penfield, R. D., Cohen, L. M., Lang, S. F., Owenz, M. B., & Pasipanodya, E. (2016). Enhancing relationship quality measurement: The development of the Relationship Flourishing Scale. Journal of Family Psychology, 30(8), 997–1007.