How long does this quiz take?

It takes about 2-3 minutes to complete.

Are my responses private?

Yes, all answers are anonymized and confidential.

Can I take this test more than once?

Yes, you can retake the test any time to see how your results may have changed.

Will this quiz tell me how much control I have over my relationship?

This test provides insight into your perceived influence and control in your partnership.

Can my results help improve my relationship?

Understanding your score can highlight areas to communicate more effectively and manage conflicts.

Understand how control affects your romantic connection.

Relationship Control Scale

How balanced is your influence in your partnership? Take this scientifically-informed test to find out.

By Mark Travers, Ph.D. | Last Updated: December 14, 2025

Reviewed by Jourdan Travers, LCSW

Every relationship has moments where one partner feels more in control than the other. The Relationship Control Test helps you understand your perception of influence in your partnership.

This test can shed light on whether external circumstances or unpredictable partner behaviors are affecting your connection. By identifying these patterns, you can improve communication and manage conflicts more effectively.

For a broader view of relationship and personal dynamics, you might also explore our Relationship Satisfaction Scale and the Passive Aggression Scale.

Frequently Asked Questions

How long does this quiz take?: It takes about 2-3 minutes to complete.
Are my responses private?: Yes, all Relationship Control Scale answers are anonymized and confidential.
Can I take this test more than once?: Yes, you can retake the test any time to see how your Relationship Control Scale results may have changed.
Will this quiz tell me how much control I have over my relationship?: This test provides insight into your perceived influence and control in your partnership.
Can my results help improve my relationship?: Understanding your score can highlight areas to communicate more effectively and manage conflicts.

Relationship Control Scale: Take The Test

Step 1: Rate Your Relationship Dynamics

For each statement, indicate how much you agree on a scale of 1 (Strongly Disagree) to 5 (Strongly Agree). For best results, answer honestly and trust your first instinct.

1. I often don’t know what to do in arguments with my partner.

2. My partner’s behavior can be unpredictable.

3. External situations often shape the smoothness of our relationship.

4. Small disagreements with my partner often seem random.

5. I notice that day-to-day events strongly affect how we get along.

6. Sometimes disagreements feel impossible to resolve.

7. It often depends on my partner to end conflicts calmly.

8. I struggle to understand what triggers my partner’s moods.

9. I feel unsure about how much influence I have over the outcome of conflicts with my partner.

Step 2: Enter Your Demographics

Provide your age, gender, region, and first name for a detailed report comparing your results to others.

What is your age?

What is your gender?

What region of the world do you live in?

What is your first name?

Step 3: Submit Your Relationship Control Scale Answers

After completing all questions, click below to send your responses to Mark Travers, Ph.D. All answers are anonymized and confidential.

References

Miller, P. C., Lefcourt, H. M., & Ware, W. E. (1983). The construction and development of the Miller Marital Locus of Control scale. Canadian Journal of Behavioral Science, 15, 266–279.

Disclaimer

This scale is designed for educational purposes and is not a substitute for professional diagnosis or treatment.