Gain insight into how much you worry about being rejected or emotionally unsupported in relationships.

Relationship Anxiety Test

Explore your fears in love, and how to calm them, with this 12-item personality test.

By Mark Travers, Ph.D. | Last Updated: December 02, 2025

Reviewed by Jourdan Travers, LCSW

The Relationship Anxiety Test helps you understand how much you worry about a partner’s availability, responsiveness, and commitment. This psychological construct, known as attachment anxiety, is a key idea in adult attachment theory. It reflects fears of rejection or abandonment and a tendency to become preoccupied with the relationship.

People who score high on this dimension often crave reassurance and closeness. They may feel unsettled when their partner seems distant or unavailable. These feelings typically arise from internal doubts about one’s worthiness of love and uncertainty about whether others can be relied on for support.

The items below are based on a concise, research-validated measure used in psychological studies. By providing your honest answers to this test, you’ll gain insight into your need for closeness, validation, and emotional security. You may also be interested in exploring related assessments, such as our Anxiety Sensitivity Test for general anxiety patterns or the Loneliness in Intimate Relationships Scale for a broader look at relational needs.

Frequently Asked Questions

How long does this quiz take?: It takes about 2-3 minutes to complete.
Are my responses private?: Yes, all Relationship Anxiety Test answers are anonymized and confidential.
Can I take this test more than once?: Yes, you can retake the test any time to see how your Relationship Anxiety Test results may have changed.
Will this quiz tell me my overall attachment style?: No, this test only measures the anxious dimension. For a full attachment style (e.g., Secure, Dismissive-Avoidant), it's best to combine this result with your score on other tests, such as the Avoidant Lover Test.
Can my results help me with my feelings of codependency?: Yes. Attachment anxiety and codependency often overlap, as both involve an excessive need for a partner's approval and an intense focus on the relationship. Understanding your anxiety level is a key step in addressing codependent tendencies.

Relationship Anxiety Test: Take the 12-Item Test

Step 1: Rate Your Relationship Anxiety

For each statement, indicate how much you agree on a scale of 1 (Strongly Disagree) to 5 (Strongly Agree).

1. I feel anxious if my partner seems distracted or distant.

2. I need a great deal of assurance that my partner loves me.

3. I often feel my desire to be very close scares partners away.

4. I am bothered when my partner does not want to get as close as I prefer.

5. I get very upset if my romantic partner is unavailable when I need them.

6. I am sensitive to hints that my partner might lose interest in me.

7. I frequently wonder whether my partner’s feelings for me might fade over time.

8. If I don’t hear back from my partner quickly, I start to assume something is wrong.

9. I look for signs that my partner is truly committed to me.

10. I feel uneasy unless I’m sure my partner is thinking about me.

11. When my partner needs space, I sometimes worry they are drifting away.

12. If my partner doesn’t respond warmly, I tend to think I did something wrong.

Step 2: Enter Your Demographics

Provide your age, gender, region, and first name for a detailed report comparing your results to others.

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What region of the world do you live in?

What is your first name?

Step 3: Submit Your 'Relationship Anxiety Test' Answers

After completing all questions, click below to send your responses to Mark Travers, Ph.D. All answers are anonymized and confidential.

References

Wei, M., Russell, D. W., Mallinckrodt, B., & Vogel, D. L. (2007). The Experiences in Close Relationship Scale (ECR)-Short Form: Reliability, Validity, and Factor Structure. Journal of Personality Assessment, 88(2), 187–204.

Disclaimer

This scale is designed for educational purposes and is not a substitute for professional diagnosis or treatment.