Lovebird Scale

Curious whether your romance is flourishing and deeply satisfying? Take this test to find out.

By Mark Travers, Ph.D. | October 30, 2024

A "lovebird relationship" is characterized by love, passion, affection, mutual trust, support and responsiveness. Such partners care deeply about each other's goals, needs and well-being—savoring each precious moment together. They commit to keeping the romance alive and thriving, creating a foundation for long-lasting love.

Built to assess the feelings, behaviors and attitudes that define such relationships, the Lovebird Scale invites couples to reflect on the elements that contribute to a deeply satisfying and enduring partnership and gain insight into their relationship's health.

Using straightforward yet meaningful statements, this scale—developed by researchers Sara Cloonan, Lara Ault, Karen L Weihs and Richard D Lane—touches on everything from emotional closeness and physical attraction to shared goals and the little things that make love feel special.

These elements work together to paint a fuller picture of the bond you share with your partner and can serve as a tool for personal reflection or a conversation starter for those who want to nurture an even stronger connection.

You can take this test here. Follow all of the steps to receive your results.

Step 1: In terms of your current relationship, rate the following statements based on how much you agree with them on a scale of strongly disagree to strongly agree.

1. I trust my partner completely and I can tell my partner anything.

2. When I hear certain songs, I think of how much I love my partner.

3. My partner never intentionally insults me, puts me down or makes me feel bad.

4. Our sex life is deeply satisfying.

5. We are very kind to each other.

6. Sometimes when I'm alone, I ﬁnd myself thinking about how much I love my partner.

7. My partner accepts every part of me, even the things I dislike about myself.

8. The more time we spend together, the more I enjoy my partner's company.

9. My partner and I respect each other's opinions, even when we don't agree with each other.

10. I ﬁnd my partner extremely physically attractive.

11. My partner and I ﬁt well together.

12. I often ﬁnd myself thinking about special things I can do to make my partner happy.

13. I support my partner in their goals and aspirations, and they do the same for me.

14. Touching is natural and fundamental to our relationship.

15. I can talk to my partner about anything, even if it is a difﬁcult conversation.

16. We are each other's best friend.

17. I don't have to sacriﬁce aspects of myself to keep my partner happy.

18. My partner and I go through life savoring moments together.

Step 2: Enter your age, gender, region, and first name so we can provide you with a detailed report that compares your test scores to people similar to you.

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What is your gender?

What region of the world do you live in?

What is your first name?

Step 3: Check to make sure you've provided answers to all of the statements/questions above. Once you've done that, click the button below to send your responses to Awake Therapy's Lead Psychologist, Mark Travers, Ph.D. He will provide you with an overview of how you scored relative to others (all answers are anonymized and confidential to protect users' privacy). He can also answer any follow-up questions you may have.

References: Cloonan, S., Ault, L., Weihs, K., & Lane, R. (2024). Development and preliminary validation of the Lovebird Scale. Behavioral Sciences, 14(9), 747. https://doi.org/10.3390/bs14090747