Emotional Promiscuity Scale

Do you fall for people hard and fast, and often end up regretting it? Take this test to find out if it's love at first sight or 'emophilia.'

By Mark Travers, Ph.D. | February 21, 2024

Emophilia, or emotional promiscuity, describes the tendency to fall in love quickly, frequently and less discriminately. This pattern can lead to unhealthy relationships and emotional consequences. Those with emophilia may overlook red flags and be drawn to partners with dark personality traits.

The rush of falling in love can be thrilling, but seeking it out repeatedly can create harmful attachment habits–leading to unprotected sex, high risk of infidelity and falling for toxic partners. Learning to recognize and break this cycle is crucial for building healthier relationships.

The Emotional Promiscuity Scale (EPS) is a 10 item tool used to asses emophilia, developed by Daniel Nelson Jones. By systematically quantifying emotional promiscuity-related thoughts and behaviors, the EPS provides researchers and practitioners with a valuable tool for comprehensively assessing this phenomenon. Everyone has a certain threshold of falling in love; for some, it can happen in an instant, and for others, it can take a lifetime. In emophilia, this threshold is reached much faster than for most people.

You can take this test here. Please follow all of the steps to receive your results.

Step 1: Rate the following statements based on how much you agree with them on a scale of strongly disagree to strongly agree.

1. I fall in love easily.

2. For me, romantic feelings take a very short time to develop.

3. I feel romantic connections right away.

4. I love the feeling of falling in love.

5. I am the type of person who falls in love.

6. I often feel romantic connections to more than one person at a time.

7. I have been in love with more than one person at the same time.

8. I fall in love frequently.

9. I tend to jump into relationships.

10. During your entire life, how many people have you fallen in love with?

Step 2: Enter your age, gender, region, and first name so we can provide you with a detailed report that compares your test scores to people similar to you.

What is your age?

What is your gender?

What region of the world do you live in?

What is your first name?

Step 3: Check to make sure you've provided answers to all of the statements/questions above. Once you've done that, click the button below to send your responses to Awake Therapy's Lead Psychologist, Mark Travers, Ph.D. He will provide you with an overview of how you scored relative to others (all answers are anonymized and confidential to protect users' privacy). He can also answer any follow-up questions you may have.

References: Jones, D. N. (2011). The Emotional Promiscuity Scale. In T.D. Fisher, C.M. Davis, W.L. Yarber, & S.L. Davis (Eds.), Handbook of Sexuality-Related Measures (3rd ed., pp. 226–227). New York, NY: Routledge.