3 'Relationship Resolutions' To Commit To In 2025

Want to take your relationship to the next level in this new year? Here's three ways to start fresh and flourish.

By Mark Travers, Ph.D. | January 29, 2025

If your relationship was tested last year, with a rollercoaster of emotions, external obstacles, arguments that spiraled out of control or misunderstandings that grew larger than they should have, you might have realized that many of those moments could have been softened with a bit more mindfulness, intentional communication or simply pausing to listen.

Interestingly, a 2020 study published in PNAS analyzed data from over 11,000 couples across 43 datasets, uncovering the most significant predictors of relationship quality. The findings revealed that relationship-specific factors—such as perceived partner commitment, appreciation, sexual satisfaction, perceived partner satisfaction and conflict—play a far greater role in relationship quality than individual traits like personality or any external circumstances.

These indicators offer a blueprint of resolutions couples can make together, and actions they can take to create a more loving, respectful and united relationship. Relationships aren't perfect, but with the right effort and intention, the challenges of the past don't have to repeat themselves this year.

Here are three of the most impactful resolutions you can make this year to elevate your relationship to new heights, based on the PNAS study.

1. We Will Appreciate Each Other Deeply

There's something magical about feeling truly appreciated by your partner. Whether it's a heartfelt "thank you" for making coffee in the morning or an unexpected compliment, these moments of gratitude can make all the difference.

The study revealed that appreciation is one of the strongest predictors of relationship quality. Feeling valued strengthens emotional intimacy, builds trust and reinforces the sense of being a team. Without appreciation, even the smallest actions can feel overlooked, and dissatisfaction starts to creep in.

Here's are a few ways to be more appreciative of your partner this year:

• Recognize the little things. Gratitude for everyday efforts, like your partner cooking dinner or running an errand, goes a long way. A simple "Thank you for always thinking about us" can make a big difference to how valued they feel.
• Be specific. Vague praise like "You're amazing" is nice, but highlighting specific actions, like saying "I love how you always make time for me, even when you're busy," makes appreciation feel even more genuine.
• Create a habit of gratitude. Take a moment every day to express to each other what you're grateful for in your life together, including what you love about each other or your relationship. This allows you to appreciate everything you have built together, and reminds you to not take each other for granted.

Appreciation fosters a positive emotional cycle, where both partners feel valued and motivated to reciprocate, strengthening the relationship over time.

2. We Will Believe In Each Other's Commitment

If last year left you questioning your partner's dedication, this resolution can make all the difference. Feeling secure in your partner's commitment is essential for a strong relationship.

Researchers also found that perceived partner commitment is one of the strongest predictors of relationship satisfaction. When both partners feel confident in each other's dedication, it creates trust, intimacy and resilience, making the relationship better equipped to handle challenges.

Here's how you can build and reinforce a sense of commitment in your relationship this year:

• Make your actions match your words. Consistency builds trust. For example, if you promise to support your partner during a tough week, follow through by checking in, lending a hand with their tasks or offering emotional support. Such actions display reliability and reinforce your commitment.
• Create shared goals. Plan something meaningful together, like saving for a trip, starting a joint project or setting a shared fitness goal. Having shared goals gives both partners a sense of being a team and working toward the same future.
• Have regular check-ins. Dedicate time to talk about your relationship. Ask questions like, "How do you feel about where we are right now?" or "What's something I can do to make you feel more supported?" These conversations help strengthen the belief that you're both equally invested in the health and longevity of your connection.
• Express your intentions. Don't assume your partner knows you're committed—tell them. For example, saying, "I want to build a future with you" or "You're the most important person in my life" reminds them of your dedication.

Believing in each other's commitment isn't just about trust—it's about creating a partnership that feels safe, supportive and forward-focused. By prioritizing these small yet intentional actions, you can deepen your bond and set the tone for a stronger, more connected relationship.

3. We Will Resolve Conflicts As A Team

Maybe last year's arguments felt more like battles, with both of you stuck in cycles of blame and defensiveness. This year, commit to approaching conflict with a "team mindset"—working together to tackle challenges, instead of seeing each other as opponents.

Researchers highlight that how couples handle conflict plays a significant role in relationship quality. Constructive conflict resolution strengthens trust and emotional intimacy, while unresolved or poorly managed arguments can erode the foundation of a relationship.

Here's how to argue like teammates and turn disagreements into opportunities for growth:

• Shift from "me vs. you" to "us vs. the problem." When disagreements arise, avoid trying to "win." Instead, focus on solving the issue collaboratively. For instance, if you're frustrated about doing too many household chores, say, "How can we divide tasks so neither of us feels overwhelmed?" rather than "You never help around the house!" This approach keeps the conversation productive and solution-focused.
• Take tactical pauses. Arguments often escalate because emotions run high. When you feel tensions rising, suggest a short break— "I need a few minutes to gather my thoughts. Let's come back to this when we're both calmer." Pausing allows you both to reflect and approach the issue with clarity and empathy.
• Start conversations gently. The way you begin a discussion sets the tone for how it unfolds. Instead of launching into criticism, start with kindness and appreciation. For instance, "I know you've had a lot on your plate lately, and I really appreciate your efforts. Can we talk about how to balance things better at home?" This reduces defensiveness and encourages collaboration.
• Apologize when necessary. Taking responsibility for your role in a disagreement can de-escalate tension and rebuild trust. A sincere apology might sound like, "I'm sorry for interrupting earlier. I see how that made you feel unheard." Specific apologies show your commitment to resolving issues constructively.
• Stay focused on the issue at hand. Arguments can spiral when unrelated grievances are dragged in. If you notice the conversation veering off course, gently redirect it by saying, "Let's focus on solving this first, then we can discuss other concerns." Keeping the discussion on track prevents escalation and helps you resolve issues more effectively.

Remember, the effort you put into your relationship today paves the way for a more fulfilling and resilient future together. Focusing on your relationship resolutions keeps you anchored towards progress and helps you create an intentional, meaningful relationship that you nurture together.

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A similar version of this article can also be found on Forbes.com, here.