3 'Mental Blocks' That Are Stopping You From Kicking Bad Habits

Discouraged about being unable to kick a bad habit for good? These three mental blocks could be what are holding you back.

By Mark Travers, Ph.D. | December 10, 2024

Have you ever resolved to quit a bad habit, only to find yourself slipping back into old patterns? Perhaps you intended to eliminate late-night snacking, reduce screen time or commit to a consistent exercise routine, yet the pull of familiarity drew you back after only a few days. The experience can be both disheartening and frustrating, leaving you questioning your resolve.

Breaking bad habits is not merely a matter of willpower. It's a complex process that requires uncovering and addressing the psychological barriers that maintain these patterns. Emotional triggers, perfectionistic tendencies and the fear of failure often operate beneath the surface, quietly undermining even the most well-intentioned efforts.

The encouraging news is that once these hidden barriers are identified, they can be dismantled. Here are three common psychological obstacles that may be hindering your progress—and actionable strategies to help you overcome them and create lasting change.

1. You're Driven By Comfort, Not Progress

Habits, both good and bad, are designed to make life easier by conserving mental energy. When you repeat a behavior, your brain turns it into an automatic routine, which allows you to act on autopilot. This efficiency is why bad habits are hard to break—they become ingrained shortcuts that your brain is reluctant to abandon.

Breaking these patterns requires stepping into the unfamiliar, a process that can feel daunting due to your brain's preference for predictability, even when the habit is detrimental.

Overcoming this resistance demands more than willpower, it requires strategies to create new pathways:

• Disrupt the routine. Introduce friction to interrupt automatic behaviors. A 2022 study published in the Annual Review of Psychology highlights that habits form through frequent, consistent repetition within supportive environmental contexts. To break a habit, alter the environment to make the behavior less accessible. For instance, if you're trying to quit smoking, remove all cigarettes and lighters from your home and car. Similarly, log out of social media accounts to introduce a pause before mindlessly scrolling.
• Visualize the benefits of change. Focus on the positive outcomes awaiting you once the habit is broken, such as reduced stress or improved health. Reinforce this vision by creating a vision board or journaling about your goals. Track your progress to stay motivated and remind yourself of the long-term rewards.

2. You're Stuck in a 'Perfection or Nothing' Mindset

The belief that you must "do it perfectly or not at all" can significantly hinder your ability to break bad habits. While striving for excellence can be motivating in some areas, this all-or-nothing mentality often leads to rigid expectations that are unsustainable. A single misstep can feel like failure, causing you to abandon your efforts altogether.

A 2020 study in the Journal of Clinical Psychology highlights this through the case of Sara, a newly graduated junior physician. Sara's perfectionism—characterized by unattainable goals, inflexible behaviors and self-worth tied to success—resulted in depression, anxiety and interpersonal struggles.

Perfectionism can paralyze progress by making change feel overwhelming and unforgiving. Instead of viewing improvement as a gradual process, you might expect flawless execution from the outset, turning minor setbacks into reasons to give up.

To overcome this mindset and stay on track:

• Focus on small wins. Break the cycle of perfectionism by setting tiny, achievable goals, such as taking a 10-minute walk or practicing one minute of meditation. These small victories build confidence and momentum, allowing you to gradually stack habits and expand your progress. Celebrate each step forward, no matter how minor it seems.
• Reframe slip-ups. Instead of seeing mistakes as failures, treat them as learning opportunities. Shift self-criticism to curiosity by asking, "What can I learn from this?" For example, if you miss a workout, reflect on the reason—was it poor planning or low energy? Adjust your approach by scheduling workouts at more convenient times or opting for shorter sessions.
• Plan for imperfection. Create a recovery plan to handle setbacks. Have a backup strategy, like an alternate workout time or a quick at-home routine, to bounce back quickly and maintain consistency.

3. You're Overwhelmed By Underlying Emotions

Bad habits often serve as coping mechanisms for emotional discomfort. When emotions feel overwhelming, it's tempting to avoid confronting them by distracting yourself with a habit. Whether it's grabbing a sugary snack when stressed or endlessly scrolling your phone out of boredom, these behaviors are your brain's way of sidestepping deeper emotional struggles.

Focusing solely on stopping the habit without addressing the emotions behind it is like mopping up water while ignoring a leaking roof—it tackles the symptom, not the cause.

To effectively break free from bad habits:

• Identify triggers. Pay attention to the specific emotions, situations or environments that lead to the habit. Use a habit journal to track when and why the habit occurs, recording your feelings and identifying patterns over time.
• Check basic needs with HALT: The HALT tool (Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired) is a simple yet powerful way to determine if unmet basic needs are amplifying your emotional triggers. Neglecting these core needs can leave you more susceptible to harmful behaviors, including relapse for those working to overcome a habit.
• Replace the habit with healthy coping mechanisms. Address the underlying emotions directly. For stress, try deep breathing or mindfulness. For boredom, engage in a stimulating activity. Combat loneliness by reaching out to others, and for anxiety, practice grounding techniques.
• Create a toolbox of strategies. Build a variety of coping techniques and practice them regularly so they're second nature when needed. Keep a "go-to" list in your phone or journal for quick reference during overwhelming moments.

Remember, it's not about perfection, it's about progress. The next time you feel stuck, pause, reflect on what's really holding you back, and take one small, actionable step toward breaking free.

What's one bad habit you're ready to overcome today? Take the Self Awareness Outcomes Test to find out.

A similar version of this article can also be found on Forbes.com, here.