Loneliness In Intimate Relationships Scale: Take The Test

Take this test to understand why you feel lonely, even when around your partner.

By Mark Travers, Ph.D. | Last Updated: March 18, 2026

The Loneliness in Intimate Relationships Scale is a tool designed to gauge the experience of "loneliness" within intimate relationships. It addresses how this specific type of isolation can influence one’s emotional, physical, and spiritual well-being, even when partners are in close proximity.

This assessment evaluates three primary factors that reflect loneliness in such relationships: feelings of detachment or emotional distance, sensations of hurt or emotional pain, and elements of guilt tied to relationship dynamics.

If you are looking to further explore your relationship dynamics, we recommend taking the Relationship Satisfaction Scale or the Couple Burnout Measure. These tests can provide additional insights into the health and stability of your partnership.

Loneliness In Intimate Relationships Scale: Take The 14-Item Test

Complete the questions below. For best results, answer honestly and trust your first instinct.

1. I felt a deep sense of pain.

2. I felt hurt.

3. I felt insulted.

4. I was very tense.

5. My husband/partner had no time for me.

6. I felt that I was not fulfilling my part in the relationship.

7. I felt guilty for my misdeeds in the marriage/relationships.

8. I invested in the relationship without getting back.

9. I felt that I was not worthy of their love.

10. I felt that I was not important to them.

11. I felt that I could not continue like this.

12. I wondered whether we are compatible.

13. I contemplated a breakup/divorce.

14. I thought that I was infantile.

Now, enter your demographics to see how you stack up against others.

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Source

Rokach A, Sha'ked A, Ben-Artzi E. Loneliness in Intimate Relationships Scale (LIRS): Development and Validation. Int J Environ Res Public Health. 2022 Oct 10;19(19):12970. doi: 10.3390/ijerph191912970. PMID: 36232275; PMCID: PMC9565016. [Read Paper]

Frequently Asked Questions

How long does this quiz take?
It takes about five minutes to complete.

Are my responses private?
Yes, all Loneliness In Intimate Relationships Scale answers are anonymized and confidential.

Can I take this test more than once?
Yes, you can retake the test any time to see how your Loneliness In Intimate Relationships Scale results may have changed.

Will this test tell me if I should get a divorce?
No, this test is designed to assess feelings of loneliness and is not a diagnostic tool for ending relationships; however, high scores may indicate a need for professional counseling.

Can I take this test if I am not married?
Yes, the scale applies to any intimate relationship where you feel a sense of detachment or isolation from your partner.

Disclaimer

This scale is designed for entertainment purposes and is not a substitute for professional diagnosis or treatment.

Loneliness In Intimate Relationships Scale: Take The Test

Loneliness In Intimate Relationships Scale: Take The 14-Item Test

Now, enter your demographics to see how you stack up against others.

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