How long does this quiz take?

It takes about five minutes to complete.

Are my responses private?

Yes, all answers are anonymized and confidential.

Can I take this test more than once?

Yes, you can retake the test any time to see how your results may have changed.

Will this test tell me if I should get a divorce?

No, this test is designed to assess feelings of loneliness and is not a diagnostic tool for ending relationships; however, high scores may indicate a need for professional counseling.

Can I take this test if I am not married?

Yes, the scale applies to any intimate relationship where you feel a sense of detachment or isolation from your partner.

The Loneliness in Intimate Relationships Scale is a validated psychological assessment designed to measure feelings of detachment, hurt, and guilt within romantic partnerships.

Loneliness In Intimate Relationships Scale

Take this test to understand why you feel lonely, even when around your partner.

By Mark Travers, Ph.D. | Last Updated: December 19, 2025

Reviewed for clinical accuracy by Jourdan Travers, LCSW

The Loneliness in Intimate Relationships Scale is a tool designed to gauge the experience of "loneliness" within intimate relationships. It addresses how this specific type of isolation can influence one’s emotional, physical, and spiritual well-being, even when partners are in close proximity.

This assessment evaluates three primary factors that reflect loneliness in such relationships: feelings of detachment or emotional distance, sensations of hurt or emotional pain, and elements of guilt tied to relationship dynamics.

If you are looking to further explore your relationship dynamics, we recommend taking the Relationship Satisfaction Scale or the Couple Burnout Measure. These tests can provide additional insights into the health and stability of your partnership.

Frequently Asked Questions

How long does this quiz take?: It takes about five minutes to complete.
Are my responses private?: Yes, all Loneliness In Intimate Relationships Scale answers are anonymized and confidential.
Can I take this test more than once?: Yes, you can retake the test any time to see how your Loneliness In Intimate Relationships Scale results may have changed.
Will this test tell me if I should get a divorce?: No, this test is designed to assess feelings of loneliness and is not a diagnostic tool for ending relationships; however, high scores may indicate a need for professional counseling.
Can I take this test if I am not married?: Yes, the scale applies to any intimate relationship where you feel a sense of detachment or isolation from your partner.

Loneliness In Intimate Relationships Scale: Take The 14-Item Test

Step 1: Rate Your Relationship Loneliness

For each statement, indicate how closely the statement aligns with your feelings during a particular time you experienced loneliness in your relationship on a scale of 1 (Strongly Disagree) to 5 (Strongly Agree).

1. I felt a deep sense of pain.

2. I felt hurt.

3. I felt insulted.

4. I was very tense.

5. My husband/partner had no time for me.

6. I felt that I was not fulfilling my part in the relationship.

7. I felt guilty for my misdeeds in the marriage/relationships.

8. I invested in the relationship without getting back.

9. I felt that I was not worthy of their love.

10. I felt that I was not important to them.

11. I felt that I could not continue like this.

12. I wondered whether we are compatible.

13. I contemplated a breakup/divorce.

14. I thought that I was infantile.

Step 2: Enter Your Demographics

Provide your age, gender, region, and first name for a detailed report comparing your results to others.

What is your age?

What is your gender?

What region of the world do you live in?

What is your first name?

Step 3: Submit Your Loneliness In Intimate Relationships Scale Answers

After completing all questions, click below to send your responses to Mark Travers, Ph.D. All answers are anonymized and confidential.

References

Rokach A, Sha'ked A, Ben-Artzi E. Loneliness in Intimate Relationships Scale (LIRS): Development and Validation. Int J Environ Res Public Health. 2022 Oct 10;19(19):12970. doi: 10.3390/ijerph191912970. PMID: 36232275; PMCID: PMC9565016.

Disclaimer

This scale is designed for educational purposes and is not a substitute for professional diagnosis or treatment.