How long does this quiz take?

Most people complete this quiz in about three minutes.

Are my responses private?

Yes, all answers are anonymized and confidential.

Can I take this test more than once?

Yes, you can retake the test any time to see how your results may have changed.

Will this quiz diagnose problems in my relationship?

No. This quiz is a self-reflection tool, not a diagnostic assessment or substitute for professional counseling.

Can my results help me decide what to do next?

Your results can help you identify patterns of emotional strain and decide whether to seek support, have conversations, or explore relationship changes.

Chronic stress in long-term relationships can quietly drain emotional energy and connection over time.

Couple Burnout Measure

A brief self-assessment of emotional fatigue in intimate relationships

By Mark Travers, Ph.D. | Last Updated: December 17, 2025

Reviewed by Jourdan Travers, LCSW

Long-term relationships can be deeply rewarding, but they can also become emotionally taxing when stress, responsibility, or unresolved conflict accumulates. The Couple Burnout Scale is designed to help you reflect on how emotionally depleted, detached, or overwhelmed you may feel within your romantic relationship.

This assessment focuses on patterns of emotional fatigue, discouragement, and reduced engagement that often develop gradually rather than all at once. These experiences are common in relationships involving caregiving demands, chronic stress, or prolonged emotional strain, and they do not automatically mean a relationship is failing.

Your results can offer useful context alongside other relationship-focused assessments, such as the Relationship Satisfaction Scale and the Loneliness in Intimate Relationships Scale, helping you better understand both strain and support within your partnership.

Frequently Asked Questions

How long does this quiz take?: Most people complete this quiz in about three minutes.
Are my responses private?: Yes, all Couple Burnout Measure answers are anonymized and confidential.
Can I take this test more than once?: Yes, you can retake the test any time to see how your Couple Burnout Measure results may have changed.
Will this quiz diagnose problems in my relationship?: No. This quiz is a self-reflection tool, not a diagnostic assessment or substitute for professional counseling.
Can my results help me decide what to do next?: Your results can help you identify patterns of emotional strain and decide whether to seek support, have conversations, or explore relationship changes.

Relationship Burnout Scale: Take The Test

Step 1: Rate Your Relationship Exhaustion

For each statement, indicate how often it applies to you on a scale of 1 (Never) to 5 (Always). For best results, answer honestly and trust your first instinct.

1. My relationship contributes to feelings of sadness or low mood.

2. I feel physically run down or low on energy because of relationship stress.

3. I feel inadequate or like I’m failing as a partner.

4. Relationship worries interfere with my sleep.

5. I sometimes feel emotionally at my limit in this relationship.

6. I feel emotionally drained by my relationship.

7. I often feel disappointed in how things are going with my partner.

8. I struggle to feel hopeful about the future of my relationship.

9. I feel stuck or unable to change my relationship situation.

10. I feel powerless when relationship problems arise.

11. I feel emotionally distant or disconnected from my partner because of ongoing relationship stress.

Step 2: Enter Your Demographics

Provide your age, gender, region, and first name for a detailed report comparing your results to others.

What is your age?

What is your gender?

What region of the world do you live in?

What is your first name?

Step 3: Submit Your Couple Burnout Measure Answers

After completing all questions, click below to send your responses to Mark Travers, Ph.D. All answers are anonymized and confidential.

References

Pines, A. P., Neal, M. B., Hammer, L. B., & Icekson, T. (2011). Job Burnout and Couple Burnout in Dual-earner Couples in the Sandwiched Generation. Social Psychology Quarterly, 74(4), 361–386.

Disclaimer

This scale is designed for educational purposes and is not a substitute for professional diagnosis or treatment.