Research Shows Us Why It's Important To Talk About Work With Our Romantic Partners
By Mark Travers, Ph.D.
January 28, 2023
By Mark Travers, Ph.D.
January 28, 2023
Mark Travers, Ph.D., is the lead psychologist at Awake Therapy, responsible for new client intake and placement. Mark received his B.A. in psychology, magna cum laude, from Cornell University and his M.A. and Ph.D. from the University of Colorado Boulder. His academic research has been published in leading psychology journals and has been featured in The New York Times and The New Yorker, among other popular publications. He is a regular contributor for Forbes and Psychology Today, where he writes about psycho-educational topics such as happiness, relationships, personality, and life meaning. Click here to schedule an initial consultation with Mark or another member of the Awake Therapy team. Or, you can drop him a note here.
Are you struggling to strike a balance between your work and family domains? Here's how to navigate the path.
A recent study published in Current Psychology explains how sharing experiences about work can bring about balance in dual-earner couples and shape relationship and life satisfaction.
"It is essential for spouses to discuss their work with each other, as the work domain is often a significant part of our lives and can significantly impact our well-being," says Delia Virga of the West University of Timisoara in Romania and the lead author of the paper. "Sharing details about your work with your partner can help them better understand and support each other and provide an opportunity to connect and bond over shared interests and experiences," she adds.
Drawing on data from 149 Romanian couples, the researchers explored the role of communication regarding work among dual-earner couples. They found that couples who communicate openly and honestly about their work were more likely to have higher levels of relationship satisfaction and balance.
Conversations around work represent an essential part of how individuals enact their home environments, negotiate with their partners, build awareness, and ultimately create meaning out of their experiences.
"Communication about work is essential to the social construction of reality and in creating a supportive and fulfilling home environment," says Virga. "By sharing information and ideas about their work, spouses can better understand and support each other, making sense of connection and teamwork. Additionally, communication quality is one of the best predictors of life satisfaction."
As a working woman herself, Virga has the following pieces of advice for partners in relationships to bridge the support gap:
And, while it's important to give work the respect it deserves, it's also important to be able to slip out of work mode. If you find yourself talking too much about work with your partner, consider trying out new activities (i.e., attending a cooking class together, taking a tennis or pickleball lesson, or visiting an art museum) that give you something fresh to talk about. Don't avoid work conversations with your partner, but don't overdo it either.
A full interview with Professor Delia Virga discussing her research can be found here:How much time should you spend talking about work with your partner?
